#newyearnewme. Planning for success.

07 Jan #newyearnewme. Planning for success.


For most of us, the phrase “New Year’s resolution” leaves us feeling a bit skeptical or squeamish.  Why?  Because all of us have crashed-out on meeting our goals in years past!  It’s hard to kick start a new behavior, especially without proper motivation.  While the first of the year is a seemingly reasonable time to do so, without a good motivator for change we are less likely to actually follow through with whatever it is we want to change.

I’m going to spend some time in this and future posts talking about how to set the right goals that set you up for success, how to get started and – most important – how to stick with your resolution. Succeeding in your goal is an awesome feeling and the best motivation to go that next step, even when it isn’t the New Year. So how should you start?

1   Muster Your Motivation

Making meaningful change takes hard work, dedication, and a strong desire to improve.  To help increase motivation, keep your eye on the prize!  Remind yourself about “why” you want to put in the hard effort to achieve your goal.  How important is it to you to make change in your life?  

Pro tip: Try to find a way to do it for yourself. Specialists in the field of motivation commonly remind us that internal/intrinsic (rather than external) motivators are strongest and longest lasting.

2   Get Real

Now it’s time to start more closely examining what you actually want to accomplish and how you want to go about making these changes.  Start by being reasonable.  By making your goals achievable and realistic, you are giving yourself a fair opportunity for success.  Overly ambitious goals can lead feeling overwhelmed, not having time and resources to complete your desired outcome.  Vague goals (i.e. “I want to be healthier” or “I want to be happier”) may sound great but tend to get us stuck because they are too broad. Be more focused by asking yourself “What can I be doing that would help me (feel healthier, be happier, etc)?” When you get your health screening with us, it might show you some specific goals that are both achievable

3   Be Specific

Once you have a clear focus of what action you want to take, you can establish a time, day, and location for when and where you will be following through with your objective.  Getting very specific gives yourself a clear, concrete, and actionable behavior that you can do. Here is an example: “For the next 4 weeks, I will go for walks at the park close to my house on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays from 5:30 to 6:30pm.”

Are you ready? Do you have a specific goal in mind? Then it’s time to get started.

Come in to Crossover to see me and our team, and get your health screening to help you find out where to focus on the new you.  If you want to know more about setting goals, sticking to them, and achieving your best health, come to a special presentation I’m giving on January 14 and January 26 at the Health Center. And if you want to follow up with me with questions or comments outside of our health center, talk to  me on Twitter. I’m @RossNelsonPsyD.

Ross Nelson, PsyD